Am I disabled? Battling PTSD and Chronic Illness (Part 1)

“Am I disabled?”, is the question that I am currently repeating to myself in my head. I feel so insecure and guilty about adding this label to my self-identity, as though I’ve chosen this type of life path for myself and am the one to blame for my current change in health status. My answer to this question comes with some very large, life decisions, but is one that is a practical solution to many of my current life struggles with co-occurring, disabling conditions.

Let’s just let this question sink in for a moment and allow me to give you some background information into why this label is so difficult for me to accept.

I’m 32 years old and never struggled with physical illness during my childhood. I pretty much lived a picturesque life throughout my early years, with the normal highs and lows experienced by any young person growing into themselves. When hormones hit in my mid-teens, my emotions became very chaotic and I started partying as a form of escape from low self-esteem and other hidden insecurities. These adolescent life decisions led to some trauma and more severe mental health issues. ( I figure I should be honest.) However, shit hit the fan in 2007 when I was a junior finishing my college degree at Virginia Tech, the same year as the massacre killing 32 students and faculty. One of the victims was a friend I really looked up to as a role model. I often looked to her for advice about men, friendships and “growing up” as she was a few years older than me and wise beyond her years. I took her death hard, but later realized I really went into shock.

It was exactly one year from the shootings when my mental health became completely unmanageable. I had to withdraw from college, return to my parent’s home, and get serious medical help. This experience led to my first diagnosis with a qualifying disabling condition, Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD). Although I was able to get my symptoms managed enough for me to finish the last semester of credits needed to graduate from college, I never really fully recovered from that breakdown.

After escaping an emotionally abusive relationship in Virginia, I returned to the area my parents were living in Ohio. I am not from Ohio, nor was I very familiar with the area when I moved here. My only experience was the short time I lived here (maybe 3 months?) during my mental breakdown in 2008 – not a recommended way to get a feel for an area. I was not happy to move here, but I accepted this place as a blessing considering the situation that drove me to move here. (That story could be an entire book, so more on that in another post.)

I’ve now lived in Ohio for 5 years. I own a home, am in a healthy relationship (engaged to be married), and have two dogs. I literally have a little white picket fence outside of my cheerful, yellow home. It really does look nice from the outside and I’m very grateful for all I have. However, what most people don’t know from just looking at my life is that I live every day with an invisible illness and chronic pain. I believe that I have been showing symptoms of my autoimmune/hereditary chronic pancreatitis since my early to mid 20’s, but was not officially diagnosed until September 2017, after a short-term disability leave of absence I took from my employer at the time. Since my diagnosis, I have been “laid off” from my job as a Digital Marketer and lost another job at a local non-profit due to my inability to manage my pancreatic symptoms.

I have now been unemployed since August 2018 and am really doubting my ability to return to a normal, full-time 9AM to 5PM job. It would be my third attempt at working full-time in less than a year and a half. I’m in desperate need of medical care and have not been able to get the care I need because of my employment status. I have applied to Medicaid, but I’m not even sure that coverage will do much for all of the specialists and medications that I need to manage my life. I’m praying that I won’t have to switch doctors.

I am currently unable to manage my flares, even by following my doctor’s dietary advice. This has led myself and my doctors to believe that there may be something else to my condition. Due to malabsorption and consequential malnutrition, I am extremely fatigued all of the time. I wake up daily on a fairly high pain level and have had to start taking pain medications daily. I’ve been referred to a pain clinic which my doctor hopes can get me to a functioning level for employment. We will see how that goes, but only time will tell.

I think it’s important to realize like most social benefits, this is not something anyone wants to do. If it were up to me, I’d be fit as a fiddle and following my dreams (both career and personal.) As a natural extrovert, sitting at home absolutely drains me and I plan to try and work part-time as soon as possible. I am a very independent person and it can be a learning process to have to rely on others, including our own government assistance programs. I have supported paying into this system and have worked for over a decade at this point. However, that doesn’t make it easier.

My nurse and doctors have already told me that they support my decision to seek social security. To begin with, I really need the health insurance to get the care I need.  I plan to get a lawyer and begin compiling all of the items on this checklist from the Social Security Administration. I will be going to my local disability office in hopes that they will help me navigate this system in the easiest way possible. So far, I haven’t been able to receive much help over the phone or via their websites.

Wish me luck on this journey into the unknown.

Money as currency towards PURPOSE – Fixing my money mindset issues

For anyone who personally knows me, there’s no big surprise that I have “money mindset” issues. I fully believe in the ideas of manifestation and focusing on abundance. However, the idea of changing my mindset through manifestation/abundance techniques has really never resonated with me as a way of fixing my money mindset issues. In fact, what I’ve discovered is that I have a fear of money and how it may affect me – not a manifestation or abundance problem. I’ve carried the belief that money is evil, selfish and leads to immoral activities for quite some time now. This money mindset conditioning has developed over time, with its beginnings in my college years doing social justice work against mountain top removal mining in the coalfields of West Virginia (watching coal companies rape and pillage small communities in an effort to make more capital) up to my last career job working as a Digital Marketing Director for a luxury jeweler. Recently (literally yesterday), a lightbulb went off when I listened to a live video on Instagram of a few women entrepreneurs speaking about their views on money and how they’ve had to overcome their own money mindset issues. The idea of money as currency towards PURPOSE was mentioned and I am now hooked on trying to rewire my brain to accept this way of thinking.

Reconditioning my mindset all starts with reflection. It’s actually funny because when I worked non-profit in my early 20s, I left the field because I realized there was so much I could do for the causes I believe in if I was the one with capital to contribute, instead of the one begging the half-interested financially elite. However, somewhere down the line, I began feeling influenced by money and the crowd it often led me towards working with. (I’m an empath, so I often have to remain mindful that I don’t get sucked into other people’s worlds and ways of thinking while mistaking it for my own.) I am currently unemployed as I deal with a serious chronic illness (autoimmune chronic pancreatitis) and search for how to balance financial responsibilities with the healing of my body and soul. With all that said, I’m ready to start thinking about how to make money again. This time with a renewed sense of mindfulness and PURPOSE and also a need for a flexible, career lifestyle that will work for my current health situation.

So, how can money be the currency for purpose and how can I incorporate this into my financial goals? I know that I’m a broken record, but really, everything in life turns towards mindfulness. Often, I get in such a rush and become impatient with needing results that I don’t always take the time to make the decisions that are best for me. Or, in my case as an empath, I fall into people pleasing behaviors and lose sight on what I WANT from my work. Therefore, I am going to set some serious financial goals for myself with varying levels of purpose behind each goal.

Due to my chronic illness, I am going to start with very attainable goals of helping my fiance with bills (he’s currently taking all of the financial responsibility), while also creating stretch goals attached to some level of charitable giving. As my stretch goals increase, I plan to do more and more to save towards a larger financial gift to some organizations I believe in. I guess I’m looking at this almost like a religious tithing – something I used to do when I was more involved in the church. I’m hoping that by adding this conscious level of purpose behind generating income into my life again, I won’t feel so blocked off from financial advances and blessings.

This is the very beginning of my journey towards shifting my money mindset, but I wanted to share in order to record my progress and let anyone else know who may be out there with similar money mindset issues what I’m trying to do to help myself gain the financial freedom almost all of us need to live a happy, purposeful life.

Morning and Evening Affirmations From My Art Journal

In this art journal exercise, I focused on morning and evening affirmations that inspire me and help me start and end my days. Some of these messages I found on Pinterest images, in books I love, or they just simply came to me while I was drawing. I hope that by sharing some of these affirmations, others will be inspired to start a healing journey and share their thoughts surrounding self love and acceptance. (I would love to see any of your artwork or journal entries that this inspires in the comments or you can follow me on IG at @geena.xo and share your entries with me there.)

How I Practice Affirmations

I practice affirmations by repeating the words out loud in front of the mirror or to myself. I typically like to sit with the affirmation for at least one full minute to see what feelings it stirs in me. THIS refection is the most important part of these exercises for me. Does the affirmation feel believable? If not, why? Is there a personal belief about myself that is limiting my ability to believe this about myself? Am I laughing to myself and feeling very uncomfortable? Where does this lack of confidence come from?

Just like any addiction or mental health problem, we can not get help until we ACCEPT the things we need to change. Affirmations help me discover what limiting beliefs I currently hold for myself, so I can work through the challenges associated with changing my outlook.

Morning Affirmations


Here are my top ten favorite morning affirmations from the journal entry above.

  1. I am free of pain.
  2. I am fearless.
  3. I am a magnet for ideas.
  4. The sunrise fills me with confidence.
  5. Success will find me today.
  6. I am patient and calm and meet the day with ease.
  7. I love who I see in the mirror.
  8. I am grateful for another day.
  9. I am a giver of love today.
  10. Unlimited energy fills me today.

Evening Affirmations


Here are my top ten favorite evening affirmations from the journal entry above.

  1. Sleep comes easily to me tonight.
  2. The moonlight fills me with peace.
  3. My mind is restful.
  4. I am calm and let the events of today go.
  5. I am at peace with my life.
  6. I have no regrets or worries of the future.
  7. I release what no longer serves me easily and gracefully.
  8. I am filled with content.
  9. I forgive myself and others for any mistakes that were made today.
  10. I awaken with new inspiration.


30 Affirmations To Build Confidence

I wrote about my process of mindfulness journaling in my previous blog, Mindfulness Journaling Toward Mental Wellness. Below is my first and most simple example of this process and some of the affirmations that I’m currently using to work through my own self discovery to build self-confidence.

In this exercise, I simply wrote 30 Affirmations To Build Confidence. I repeated each affirmation as I wrote it and kept repeating it’s message any time I returned to the affirmation in the image. I’ve typed each affirmation below for you to incorporate into your own mindfulness journal exercise.


  1. I am fearless.
  2. I am unique and that’s my gift to the world.
  3. I am always improving.
  4. For today, I have the knowledge I need.
  5. I am calm and mindful.
  6. Challenges are opportunities to grow and improve.
  7. I am compassionate with others and myself.
  8. I am strong and wise.
  9. I am a positive being, aware of my potential.
  10. Life is beautiful.
  11. I am grateful of my journey and its many lessons.
  12. I am talented and intelligent.
  13. Everything is possible.
  14. There are no blocks I can not overcome.
  15. I love to meet other people and make new friends.
  16. I am my best source of motivation.
  17. I only attract positive people because I am a positive person.
  18. I love myself.
  19. I make a difference by showing up every day and doing my best.
  20. I am becoming a better version of myself.
  21. My work fulfills me.
  22. I have unlimited power.
  23. My actions are intentional and they bring me closer to my goals.
  24. I am enthusiastic.
  25. I am confident.
  26. I am persistent.
  27. I am proud to be a loving and sensitive person.
  28. I let go of fearing mistakes and failure.
  29. I am creative and open to new solutions.
  30. I deserve compliments and accept them easily.

My second journal entry incorporates many of the same affirmations as above, but in a different format. In this exercise, I decided to provide tiny sketches with each affirmation. This eventually evolved into an entire image where these affirmations came together.


One of my favorite past times is revisiting these journal entries and seeing which affirmations first pop out to me. Often, the message that pops out to me is the affirmation I am seeking with all of my heart.

Is there an affirmation that seems to pop out to you? What does your inner voice tell you you’re craving from this affirmation? Are you creating walls to keep you from these inner feelings? If yes, what are these walls and are they valid?


Mindfulness Journaling Towards Mental Wellness

I have suffered from obsessive compulsive thinking and suicidal ideation since my teenage years. I meditate frequently and have always felt attracted to and comfortable with the meditative arts, such as yoga and tai chi. However, these practices have never seemed to help me actually change my thought process nor the messages of my erratic, intrusive thoughts.

I never understood how I could practice meditation as often as I do and still feel out of control when it comes to my thoughts and feelings. What I’ve discovered on my personal journey is that a lot of this “out of control feeling” is actually due to my personal need to feel in control and my lack of acceptance and empathy towards myself. I was still holding onto toxic, critical thoughts of myself even if I was able to separate from them for long periods of time.

I notice that as I practice more affirmations through my journaling practice, these intrusive thoughts have changed their tone. I am able to actually become less reactionary to their messages and have even noticed myself automatically repeating some of my favorite affirmations in my head instantly in order to cope with the negative thoughts. This is a huge improvement for someone like me.

What’s helped me really be able to tune into the messages and work through my own inner feelings regarding the affirmation’s messages has been what I can only explain and define as mindfulness or meditation journaling. Because this practice is so different from my meditation practice, I prefer the term “mindfulness journaling”.

Mindfulness journaling allows me to becoming absorbed in the messages that I’m drawing through a mantra like process of awareness. I typically begin one of these sessions with an affirmation I like. I may or may not get an idea for how I want these pages to look before starting. I try not to take a lot of time with planning and if I am going to give myself a design, I keep it very loose and adaptable.

As I write the affirmations and doodle, I repeat it’s message over and over in my head. I let myself see and draw symbols that can remind me of this affirmation’s power, while also paying attention to my inner thoughts and feelings regarding the affirmation’s message. I find that the more unbelievable the affirmation, the stronger the power it typically has over me and my inability to believe it’s truth due to my preconceived negative opinions of myself. This allows me to acknowledge that this affirmation is telling me something I really need to work on – whether that be acceptance for something that I can not change or the beginning step of awareness towards a trait that I can and want to change about myself.

I prefer to do this type of journaling in my paper notebook so I won’t be distracted by technology and it’s constant alerts. It also allows me to go anywhere to practice without worrying about battery power.

I will begin sharing some of my favorite affirmations periodically on this blog along with my journal entries. I hope you enjoy them as much as I do and they inspire you to do the soul work you need to become the person you’ve always envisioned yourself to be.